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Speak the frustrating partner's hidden thoughts aloud
A viral relationships and dating format on TikTok and Instagram
Act out or narrate the unspoken inner monologue of the avoidant or emotionally unavailable partner, in the first person.
4
accounts it worked for
5x
median, times their usual
#45
of 55 in relationships and dating
Angle
Skit, Talking head
Why it works
Hurt partners and exes get an answer to 'do they even care?' in the other person's own blunt voice. That brings recognition and shares more than lecturing on traits does.
Hook formulaWhen an [archetype] is [specific situation]...
How to make it
- 1Pick the frustrating persona (avoidant, emotionally unavailable).
- 2Write 3-5 blunt lines of what they privately think or say.
- 3Perform them in first person, then tie them back to the viewer's pain.
Examples
Best first, one per account. Each links to the original post.
- @theholisticpsychologist
1.5M followers, TikTok
“When an avoidant is fully done with the relationship”
15x their usual views, skit, psychology of attraction
- @dr.sarahhensley
285K followers, Instagram
“Do NOT take that emotionally unavailable man to therapy”
5.7x their usual views, talking head, psychology of attraction
- @drsarahhensley
1.3M followers, TikTok
“The experience of the emotionally unavailable partner in the relationship Do they even care?!”
4.6x their usual views, talking head, psychology of attraction
- @annalisa.bahadur
97K followers, Instagram
“Dismissive avoidant don't always come back”
3.0x their usual views, talking head, psychology of attraction
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How this is measured
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- TikTok videos and Instagram Reels are measured on views. Instagram carousels have no view count, so they are measured on likes against the account's usual likes, and say so.
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