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Quote the common judgment, then flip it

A viral relationships and dating format on TikTok and Instagram

State the criticism, excuse or habit people mock, then take the opposite stance and recast it as a strength.

3

accounts it worked for

15x

median, times their usual

#38

of 55 in relationships and dating

Angle

Talking head

Why it works

Viewers recognise the judgment they have heard, and the reversal validates them. They tag a partner or argue in the comments.

Hook formulaPeople say [common judgment], but I think it's actually [flip].

How to make it

  1. 1Quote the common insult, excuse or taboo in the opening
  2. 2Say the reverse outright
  3. 3Back it with one example or line of reasoning

Examples

Best first, one per account. Each links to the original post.

  • @pod.land7

    11K followers, TikTok

    “YOU SAID YOU WANTED A GOOD WOMAN… UNTIL SHE STARTED SPEAKING UP. 👀”

    25x their usual views, talking head, couples

  • @annahowerton_

    5K followers, Instagram

    “If you were to leave a relationship”

    15x their usual likes, talking head, couples

  • @phoenixpathway

    51K followers, TikTok

    “He doesn’t want to know you”

    7.1x their usual views, talking head, couples

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  • Every post is compared with its own account's usual reach, not with other accounts. "14x their usual" means the post got 14 times the median views of that account's recent posts.
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