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Congratulate the breakup, list the perks

A viral relationships and dating format on TikTok and Instagram

Treat a painful ending as good news, using a jarring 'congrats' or a list of looking-forward-to perks and proof of strength.

3

accounts it worked for

51x

median, times their usual

#20

of 55 in relationships and dating

Angle

Slideshow, Talking head

Why it works

Nicolecolantonicoaching, tatumjohnson78 and therealconnect.1 turn heartbreak into a win. The contrarian opener stops the scroll and the reframe gets shared.

Hook formulaCongrats on [painful event]. It means you [reframe]

How to make it

  1. 1Open by celebrating the painful event
  2. 2Explain the reframe ('It means you...')
  3. 3Add petty, specific perks or a claim about growth

Examples

Best first, one per account. Each links to the original post.

  • @therealconnect.1

    264K followers, TikTok

    “I THINK LEAVING SOMEBODY THAT YOU”

    331x their usual views, talking head, breakups

  • @nicolecolantonicoaching

    17K followers, Instagram

    “CONGRATS ON YOUR BREAKUP.”

    51x their usual likes, slideshow, breakups

  • @tatumjohnson78

    72K followers, TikTok

    “More things to look forward to post breakup:”

    21x their usual views, talking head, breakups

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How this is measured

  • Every post is compared with its own account's usual reach, not with other accounts. "14x their usual" means the post got 14 times the median views of that account's recent posts.
  • TikTok videos and Instagram Reels are measured on views. Instagram carousels have no view count, so they are measured on likes against the account's usual likes, and say so.
  • A post makes the library at 2x its account's usual or more. A format is a repeatable move (what is said or shown, or how it is edited) that several accounts used in breakout posts. It is listed here once it worked for 3 or more different accounts.
  • Formats rank on how many accounts they worked for and how far above usual, damped so a fluke on one tiny account cannot outrank a format that worked for ten.